Usually, when we hear romantic stories like "A Story of a Little Star," also known as "ကြယ်ကလေးရဲ့ ပုံပြင်," we often portray them in two extremes: one, the happy ending of a rising star uniting with its destined companion, and the other, a dramatic conclusion of growing apart. However, a common thread in both narratives is the notion that the star deserves someone better, compelling them to let go for the sake of their beloved little star's future. The reason often cited is the concept of "pure platonic love," devoid of the need for possession. How dramatic, huh?
Reflecting on this, I began to realize the irrationality of that logic. As humans with a wired survival instinct in our nerves, we tend to act in our self-interest. It's never about "things we do for love"; it's about "my love, my feelings, my wants, my needs." Even if someone lets go of the star by acknowledging it deserves someone better, this very action suggests that deep down inside, they couldn't cope with the guilt of dragging their star along and felt relief in letting go.
It was never solely about someone deserving better; it has always been about both deserving someone better. Here, "better" doesn't imply someone richer, smarter, or possessing various -er adjectives. It signifies deserving to be with someone who vibrates at the same frequency as us. If love and compromise are inseparable for a lasting relationship, why should we sacrifice those small parts of ourselves to be with someone? If we love someone vibrating at a different frequency, imagine the greater magnitude of love we could experience. If we were willing to lose small parts of ourselves for someone different, it makes me wonder how prepared we would be to embrace anything for someone who vibrates in harmony.
Personal descriptions and opinions on love could vary. I used to accept the idea of compromising our ways of life to be with someone we love. But now, I see those commitments and compromises as chains that I need to break free. The more we try to compromise, the more of our parts we lose. And yes, as the famous lyrics go, "When we are becoming something else, I think it's time to walk away," I would rather break those chains before I start losing myself little by little. If there is nothing wrong with sacrificing who you are, there is nothing wrong in refusing to do so.
For me, an independent love is something I seek now. Being independent does not mean not requiring someone to live. It means one can deal with their own stuff without affecting the freedom of the other one. Maybe you miss someone badly and want to share your feelings with someone, then you can share it, but do not EXPECT them to reciprocate because they might miss you in their own rhythm, different from yours or not miss you at all. You should not get mad at them for not reciprocating your feelings but should just accept what you are feeling and stop at the point of confessing/letting them know about your feelings. The same goes for almost everything, and that's the reason why I started viewing "you should do xxxx things if you love me" as chains, binding us from being who we really are. If these chains are called commitments, please let me be free of them as well.
Because, if someone vibrates differently from your frequency, not only do you deserve someone who matches yours, but also they deserve the same.
Like little stars wandering in the universe, we might be attracted to nearby planets and stars. We will have to keep wandering until we find a part of us that aligns correctly and make our best efforts to be with the right fit instead of wasting time on compromises.
Yes, when we are becoming something else, it's indeed the time to walk away.
LWINT
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